Ideal VS Reality
We were discussing about our concepts of life and the kind of people we want to become. A quick view about our discussion so that you can understand my basis for the brainwork.
In this world, people inevitably fall into this chain effect -
Action --> Experience --> Reaction
In good situations, this effect is good in giving positive reinforcement. But if it's a bad situation, the reinforcement becomes punishment. This makes us and the rest of the world simply being reactive to experiences and knowledge that we have instead of being true to ourselves.
For example, in your workplace, nobody genuinely cares about you or wants to know you out of pure motives. Thus, you conclude that to survive in the marketplace, you have to be tough and powerful, making yourself lose your inner being along the way. This is reaction.
I challenged this concept. I told her I want to be the kind of person who insists and sticks to "Action" even after an "Experience". To keep doing what I believe is right even after discouragement, so that when people see the tenacity, they would see my belief. To inspire instead of react. Imagine how the world would be like if everyone were to live like that. Think insistent of kindness. Think faith of a child.
She threw a question back. "So are you?" It took me a second to comprehend the meaning behind those words. Aside from the instinctual hurt in pride, what aroused my interest is the reveal of her desire to see that happen through an offensive question. Almost like hope.
I got back to the question, and find it still more interesting. I'm not. I'm not? Why not?? Since it's my concept and I believed (unlike my sis) that such a way in living is possible without being Mother Mary, then why am I not living up to it?
At that moment, I realized that even the people that we least expect to learn from us may be observing us. Because living together as a family, even if they are not intentionally observing, they may chance upon snippets of observations. How important is being consistent and living up to our identity. I have to turn the ideal into reality.
By the way, my best friend, Grace, has showed me through her life that this way of living is possible. Behavior does not have to follow the rule of chemical reaction. It can manifest from the heart.
Sure, people get jaded after bad experiences - just like most people already had. Instead of trying to conjure up methods to deal with reality, a better way is to make plans to reach the ideal.
- Joleen
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